Delightfully Chaotic (Redux)

“Single is no longer a lack of options – but a choice. A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day Happily and let your Ever After work itself out.”

-Mandy Hale

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Current romantic prospects: none

Current desire to date anyone: actually, also none

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Maybe I'm supposed to want something because Kayresia, Matthew, and all of my other friends are madly falling in love and whatnot. But right now, I'm okay. I am finding happiness within myself, and I'm quickly learning how to have fun- boyfriend or not! I'm just a girl, taking it one step at a time, breathing, living, and perfectly functioning without someone special in my life. It helps that I've recently learned how much fun Twitter can be!

And I know I'm not roaming the streets of Chicago looking like a scrublet because this old man whistled at me THREE times today. He apparently thought I could not hear him, so he kept whistling louder, even though he is a geriatric and I am basically a pediatric. I decided to focus on me- school, life, and ultimately, being happy.

Somehow, I had become that girl who was COMPLETELY okay being single. And to be honest, except for the small bursts when you want to cuddle at night or have sex, it's actually pretty nice. I get to sleep when I want, look hot as hell for myself, and relish in the fact that I'm not wasting my good years on anyone...but myself!

Also, after my faux-pas with Chuck I'm going to consider myself the winner because I didn't anal freak out like old Blair would have, or attempt to talk to him. I did call him, in attempt to apologize over the phone and be polite, but that's a normal thing to do. ALSO, on Facebook he unknowingly likes every perverted/porny post from 9gag, so I'm enjoying that.

This whole thing started when Audrey was being rude as hell about Chuck. I don't know how she thought she was entitled to comment on my choices, which were normal, in the unabashedly discourteous and unsolicited way she did. Anyways, after some comments about how I'm making unhealthy choices, and that I need to get over Chuck, etc, etc (okay, literally, minus the faux-pas I haven't talked to him in three weeks, and I've been fine!), I had this realization that I didn't need to take any of this...from anyone!

OKAY, I admit that I got REALLY fucking pissed, but then I realized that this wasn't fair to me, and that I didn't need to take it! With the stress of work, school, and life, I didn't need someone to be an asshole and comment on my shit. So, I lowkey deleted her out of here! Matthew and Kayresia agreed that I didn't need to take it, and Kayresia commented that the reason that Audrey got mad was probably because Chuck told me (months ago) to stop hanging out with her ass.

And I've been making new friends and I've been socializing! I even became friends with one of Chuck's friends, a very intelligent and nice lady named Ramona.

Ramona (commenting on the story of our break up): Oh my! That's a tragic story. Wow. Obviously you two still care about each yet but he's not being fair to you. And you're not being fair to him but swooping in to help him when he started falling apart! He has a lot of growing up to do. And you shouldn't have to wait for him. The only real way to get over him is to find someone who's better for you. Obviously he needs you, and obviously you need him, but your relationship can't continue like this, because it's just so unfair to everyone. He needs to spend some time thinking about who he is and what he wants! You need to get over him because he sounds truly terrible for you! Like I said before, it's okay to be friends with terrible people, but you have consistently fallen into being more than friends and that's dangerous!

(low key totally stealing her from Chuck)

And as for the whole accidentally messaging him thing- after the initial Blair Bui style freak-out, and comedic blog post, it was really whatever.

Things might have felt like they were falling apart then, but I'm actually very blessed to have such loving people in my life (job and school are still a mess but let's just ignore that for now, okay?)

And I'm doing so well with the whole break-up thing!

Except now, I'm kind of wondering...what am I going to blog about?

I mean, guys, seriously- I started this blog because I date terrible guys, and I blog about it.

What the hell am I going to blog about now?

Even from end of February- end of April when Chuck and I weren't talking I was still going on terrible dates with people and having terrible encounters! But now, it's weird because I don't even want to date anyone, I just want to be a happy, healthy young lady.

WEIRD, RIGHT?

But I'm actually fine, and actually totally living my life.

And I know this sounds like the end, but I swear to you guys, this isn't. My relationship status just isn't a plot point any more in my story, but I promise you things are still going to be ridiculous, hilarious, and delightfully chaotic.